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Annette Kristynik's avatar

Last year, and because I was a part of an organization that mentor's women who have been traumatized by sexual abuse, this video/book study was required of me for continuing education.

https://churchcares.com/ This is a valuable series for churches to use in order to help the victim and know how to respond to the abuser. It is a mix of people who are involved in the series including police officers in the SVU, as well as counselors. Darby Strickland is involved in the making of the video series.

In generations past, this includes my parents, people did not discuss certain things. They did not talk about abuse, or it was rare and shared in a mumbled type of way that was not really expressing the horrendous abuse. It was shut away in a closet somewhere with the idea that if it is not talked about and ignored "it" will not have to be dealt with. A fallout of sexual abuse for the victim is a feeling of shame over what has happened and thus not wanting to talk about it but ignore it all together or minimize. So, in being told not to talk about the abuse it makes things worse, and the feeling of shame is magnified and internalized even more. This does incredible damage to the victim.

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Rosemary Van Gelderen's avatar

I'm so glad I found this. I was 20 years in an Independent Fundamental Baptist Church where the pastor had 2 trials after the church closed. One for physical abuse in a church school and one for women he groomed to sexually assault. He went to jail for both. I was, by the grace of God, not one of his victims, but I feel God had me there to write about it. I'm currently trying to finish my rough draft. This sounds like a great book to read as well as a resource for others. My daughter is living rough now as a fentanyl addict after she was sexually assaulted by a Christian. I know so many whose lives have been torn apart by this.

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